Empowering means:
- to give authority to somebody
- give somebody a greater sense of confidence or self esteem .
- make more confident or assertive
- to have control of and be able to action an undertaking
What does it mean to be empowered?
Does empowering still have the same meaning or connotation it did 5 or 10 years ago.
If not…..what does it mean in today’s jargon?
Why is it important to us to empower our lives?
For most of us we live our lives in a way that is completely opposite to an empowered life. What we succumb to really is a life of chance, a life driven by circumstances.
For most women and for mothers especially this type of life is the norm. I know it was for me!
Rather than feeling we have our lives under complete control with a sense of empowerment we feel a bit like we are in a “Pinball Machine”.
We get ourselves up out of bed in the morning full of enthusiasm and purpose (tongue in cheek) only to enter the kitchen and have someone pull back life’s handle and with a forceful connect, shoot us into the chaos of the day.
It sends us pinging around bouncing from one situation to another until finally, at the end of the day we come to a complete standstill.
If we are lucky we will end up somewhere close to where we had planned to be, but more likely, feeling just like we are that ball in the Pinball Machine.
Is this where we want to be and if not how do we change it?
How do we become the handle that effects and activates what we WANT to make happen that day, that week, that month, that year, in our lives?
Do we want to make a change?
Do we want to start hitting the high scores………all of the time?
I know these questions appear to be somewhat presumptuous. Of course we don’t want to live our lives trapped in the “Pinball Machine’.
Most of us realise that where we are is not exactly where we want to be.
Some of us know where we want to go, but are not sure HOW to get there.
Others feel they have lost their way and fallen off the path completely.
Many women just come to a huge road block that stops them in their tracks. The demands and expectations placed on them bury the person they are.
Somehow we lose ourselves, our dreams, our direction, our confidence and self esteem get whittled away in our quest to get on and give out.
We women are programmed to do this nurture thing .To care for, make comfortable, provide a safe and happy nest for our family.
There is no avoiding it, it’s in our DNA.
Modern life and our appetite for bigger and better has however complicated and blurred the traditional boundaries for women.
Baby Boomer Women especially have been caught up in this transition into the 21st century. Our DNA hasn’t evolved fast enough to adapt to all this change. So for many of us, amazing and capable as we are, we make it up as we go along.
But what has it cost………………..US
If we wanted to be re-empowered………take back the controls and do something to allow our lights to shine bright again. What exactly could we do?
Would we have to do it alone? NO!
Is there someone out there that can give us a bit of a hand-up.. YES!
Thought about a coach?
A coach helps us rediscover who we are by providing us with tools to rebuild and reshape our perspective. They help empower, inspire and repair our self confidence and self esteem.
A coach doesn’t put pressure on us or squeeze us into a time frame. They don’t dictate the path we must take.
A coach is there to listen to us. Help us work through our problems; break down our barriers and rebirth ourselves.
A coach can accompany us on our journey and help us create lasting change. Provide support and encouragement in the decisions we make during our transition. Be our personal cheer leader in celebrating our achievements and successes.
“It won’t happen overnight. But it will happen.”
Maybe I can help you lift the lid on your Pinball Machine.
Thank you for your comments